Counselling about sex, desire, identity and relationships, in your own words, in English or Italian. And career coaching, for when the question is about work.
[€00], deducted from your sessions if you continue
Most people arrive with one question and find a few more underneath it. Any of these is reason enough to book.
Wanting sex more, less or differently from a partner. Not wanting it at all. Asexuality and the ace spectrum. Desire that disappeared and hasn't come back.
Coming out, to others or to yourself. Gender, and what shifts in sex and dating during or after transition. Shame picked up from family, religion or school.
Open, closed or still deciding. Jealousy. Saying what you want out loud. Thinking about children as a queer couple.
Kink and BDSM, whether you're curious or worried about it. Porn or hookups that feel out of hand. First times at any age. Sex after a long break.
Living with HIV, PrEP, STI anxiety, contraception. Sex with a disability or a chronic illness. Medication that changed things.
If something sounds medical, like pain or a physical change, I'll say so and help you find the right doctor. Where counselling stops
Desire, kink, asexuality, gender, sexual health. What happens in bed, and what gets in the way.
5 or 10 sessions, or a single oneIdentity, family, loneliness, self-worth: the parts of life that aren't only about sex.
5 or 10 sessions, or a single oneYour skills and working style, a shortlist of directions that fit, and a written plan.
Fixed package of five sessionsMy role shifts as we go, and listening runs through all of it. Here's roughly how a package of ten sessions plays out.
Listening. From the first session to the last. You talk at your own pace, and I don't interrupt or steer you toward an answer I've already decided on.
Asking. Precise questions about what actually happens, through most of the sessions. The question you came with often sits on top of another one.
Explaining. How desire and arousal work, what's common, what research says, and things to think about between sessions.
Noticing. All the way through: a pause, a change in your voice, the topic you keep stepping around.
Sexological counselling is talk-based. It doesn't diagnose or treat medical or psychological conditions, and I'm not a psychologist or a doctor. Some things need both, side by side.
I work in Utrecht and online, in English and Italian. I'm training in sexological counselling with the Master in Clinical Sexology at Giunti Psicologia.io, and in coaching and counselling at the Academy for Coaching and Counselling.
Finding someone who knows queer life well and can talk about sex without it getting awkward should be easy. In Utrecht, in English, it often isn't.
Thirty minutes online, [€00], deducted from your sessions if you continue. Tell me roughly what's going on and I'll tell you whether I'm the right person for it.
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